Taking care of yourself, when in a relationship, is as important as tending to the relationship itself. It is a requirement that you take care of yourself first, surely you are familiar with the old adage that says you can never give away things that you do not have. Until you feel secure and peaceful, you will never have a happy and lasting relationship.
If you choose to skip foundation steps and jump in right away to troubling murky waters, chances are you will be going straight down a sinkhole. For this reason alone, it is important to do everything in your power to stabilize yourself prior to getting in over your head.
Could This Be Your Soul Mate?
Is he thoughtful, caring, and nurturing? Is he self-reliant, or needy and beginning to ask too often for help?
Is he always asking for money? Maybe he's short on rent, car payments, or worst yet… child support! If you can't open your checkbook, do you risk never seeing this person again?
Do you sometimes get the feeling you are being used? No one wants to be played. Sometimes, we can see patterns develop that are warning signs. Wasting yourself on an individual who is only playing games is a major mistake. You could be spending time with someone new, instead of getting mired in a relationship that won't work.
Commit to Staying Okay No Matter What
Promise to take care of yourself. Remain okay with whatever happens. Your true love is out there waiting to find you. Once your happiness completely depends on your partner being constantly by your side, you will begin feeling powerless and fearful. When this happens, your partner will not want to stick around.
The partner who tries to be everything to another soon feels anger and resentment. When did the relationship stop being fun and playful? Why did you miss the early signs, before you gave your heart and soul to someone unworthy?
Sadder But Wiser You
Once you respect yourself and begin establishing boundaries, your capacity for escaping emotional pain in a relationship will come from a place full of strength and empowerment. It will come from within. True love may be just around the corner.
Will you know what your love looks like?